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Sex. Can't live with it, can't live without it.


Sex.  Can't live with it and can't live without it.  I can't believe I'm writing about this!  But, this has been an area of struggle and joy for me along all points of the spectrum.

It is such a common thread in our lives. We crave it and reject it.  We allow shame, temptation, sin and hurt to taint it.  We bask in it and delight in it.  We produce and we grow in it.
Sex.  Life's greatest mystery.  Two becoming one.  The combining of spiritual, emotional and physical needs.  The greatest non verbal communication!  Complete being with.

Sex and marriage.  God's idea of fulfilling His plan in us and through us.

Sex motivates.  Sex is a great motivator.  Those pesky natural drives that can trip us up before marriage and keep us together through marriage.

Sex keeps our relationship honest.  What? 

 Sex seems to be a great thermometer of where we are spiritually, emotionally and in our relationship.  A reflective mirror.  How trusting are we?  What bitterness and resentment is lurking just under the surface that we feel when sex is brought in to play? (Cute word choice!) But really.  

Sex reaps.  Do we really reap what we sow?  I think, YES!  

The time and attention and sacrificial love or lack of in our everyday life sows into our most intimate area of our life.  The fake smile or "perfect relationship" outside of our bedroom will soon make its way in to it.

Sex struggles.  Past abuse and past experiences can fill us with lies and dread.  Current struggles can as well. 

 Just when we think we have dealt with all of that, transition in life happens and TA DA, here we go again.  Our bodies, minds and spirit cannot or at least should not be fragmented into sections.

Sex is the perfect example of laying bear all we are to our husband or wife.  Here it is is.  The complete unconditional acceptance and respect and sacrificial love and learning.  Hurting, forgiving, healing, restoring, learning and growing throughout the thousands of transition in our lives.

The great thing about sex?  It is God's perfect plan to bind together two people into one.  Struggle and all...sex is good!







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