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Every Person Needs a Connection


Every person needs secure and strong connections.

A hunger.  A pressing and urgent need.  We are hardwired for relationship!  Our brains and our lives depend on them!
“Relationships matter: the currency for systemic change was trust, and trust comes through forming healthy working relationships.
People, not programs, change people.” Dr. Bruce Perry

This search for connection drives every aspect of our life.  Our very brains are at work to mediate connections.  Dr. Bruce Perry states,
"The human brain is a remarkable and complex
organ. It mediates all of our thoughts, feelings and
behaviors. It is the organ that allows us to form and
maintain relationships, read, write, dance and sing.
There is not a single aspect of human life that
doesn’t involve the brain."

If this connection drives us, why is it so hard to attain?  True connection excites, drives and absolutely terrifies us.  Paradoxically seeking and rejecting.  

 Consequently, it can be in our hiding where we truly see our desperation for it.  The very longing of our heart.  

 I struggle with it.  Struggle to be open and transparent to these deep and enduring relationships.  Struggle to let down my defenses and still keep appropriate boundaries. Distress over them and defend against them.  

Connection.  Every person needs a secure and strong connection.  


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