The eyes have it.
The look.
The, "I want you to notice me, experience me and help me to know my life matters," look.
Eyes are scanning. Picking up the subtleties and trying to read the language.
Eyes give the message, "I see you." "I am listening." "You matter."
Or the questions. "Do I matter?" "Do you see me?" "Am I known?"
Tonight I watched middle schoolers who were helping at a fundraiser. While doing their jobs they watched to see if others are noticing. A thumbs up or a smile matters.
In the stands with my husband by a few more middle school students. A young man picks us out and by half time is sitting by us. Why? We listened. He told us about his game and the plays on the field in front of us. Kept us up to date as to what was happening. By half time, he knew we thought he mattered.
If only I could be still more often. Be still and watch.
Be still and be with whomever is near. To give the gift of eye contact, listening and mattering.
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