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At Arm's Length Living


Arm's length living.

We live in a world of fear and trivial relationships.

A world of "relationship poverty," according to Dr. Bruce Perry.

A world of making things complicated and living in ambiguity.

Safe, dangerous, real and fake and confused world.

An arm's length world.  Arm's length living.

Keep others at arm's length AT ALL COSTS.

Don't get involved or say anything or make a stand.

Don't make waves or challenge or think.

We like our arm's length world.

If we judge, criticize and completely live with our wall held firmly in place around us.

Create programs and strategies.

 Have a meeting or a committee.

Create chaos and busyness.

Stay locked up in procrastination and slothfulness.

Run and hide.

We are bunnies.  I want to be a lion.
What we need instead in our world:

Leaders who stand on a universal truth. Men and women whose yes is yes and who believe in right and wrong.

Advocates for the weak and the hurting.

A coming along side.

Adults who take a stand in every situation.

Grown ups to make decisions.

People who open their hearts and arms to others.

Women who draw in their men and their children to nurture and protect.

Women to be honest, strong and not hide in the phone, tv or a song.

Men who take risk and get in the faces of mediocrity.  Men who will not hide in substance and hobby but take life-head on.

We need people and not programs.

Action and not talk.

Love and not money.

Holding.

Experiencing.

Risking it All.






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